Updated: Jun 11
Fear and self-doubt are two things that everyone deals with. I have found that these are two of the biggest obstacles to success, happiness and growth. They can tie you down and keep you from growing, taking on challenges, or pushing yourself in the right direction… YOUR TRUE CALLING!
Some of us feel more fear and self-doubt than others. While some of us are better at overcoming these emotions than others. Regardless of where you fall on the fear/self-doubt spectrum, there are many things you can do to rise above these emotions. Today I want to share with you 7 ways to conquer your fear and self-doubt (video included). I’m giving you the keys to turn you life into success, gain happiness and grow in this journey we call life.
So without further ado, let’s dive in and get started! Keep a pen and paper handy so you can journal about each step. You can also use the workbook I created HERE.
1. Identify what you’re actually afraid of. What do you really fear? Most of us don’t have to worry about being eaten by tigers. Our lives are rarely in danger. The most common fears in a modern society are failure and making a fool out of one’s self. Of course, there are others.
Be aware of your actual fear, and then you’ll have a chance of addressing it in the next step.
2. Are there any situations related to your fear that are mildly uncomfortable. Perhaps you have a fear of public speaking. What could you do that’s similar, but less terrifying? You want to take baby steps to conquering that fear.
3. Think less about the fear and take action. Thinking creates and magnifies fear. Don’t get stuck in your head! Taking action lessens fear. One of the best ways to get over fear is to immediately take action before you have a chance to talk yourself out of it.
Most people would be more successful, happier, and less afraid if they thought less and did more.
4. Visualize yourself being unafraid. Imagine you have a twin that’s similar to you, but different in other ways. If you could build the perfect twin, what would they be like? What skills, beliefs, and attitudes would they have? How would they handle the situation that creates fear in you?Allow yourself to become that twin.
5. Give yourself small successes. Set yourself up to win. Make the game so easy that you can’t fail. As you gain confidence, up the stakes a little. Get used to being successful in the situations that cause you to feel fear.
When people give you compliments or build you up, take it in. Sit in the moment and realize the truth they are telling. You are good at what you do, especially in the area you fear!
Show yourself that you can do it. Show yourself that nothing bad is going to happen to you.
6. Be realistic. What is the worst consequence you are likely to endure if the thing you fear comes true? What if your speech doesn’t go well? What’s actually going to happen to you? Will you still be safe? Will your family still love you? It’s probably not anything you can’t handle!
What happens if the publisher rejects your book? What if your speech doesn’t go well? What’s actually going to happen to you? Will you still be safe? Will your family still love you? You will be ok, life goes on. Realize that “it” didn’t work out, take it as a learning moment, and move on to the next. Remember, don’t get stuck in your head, and don’t get stuck thinking about the outcome. See point #3.
7. Get help. Whether you need some help from a friend or a professional, there’s no shame in getting help. You would get help if your car’s engine blew up. You’d get help if you had a broken leg. Get the help you need to deal with your fears.
Hopefully you are feeling better and more empowered to take on your fear and conquer it after taking these steps. Still not there, that’s ok. Just revisit each step in this process and take action. Over time you will get there and start living your life to the fullest!
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